Maybe you’re celebrating 10, 25 or 50 years as a couple and would love to have a vow renewal ceremony in front of the people who weren’t there the first time around.
Perhaps you’ve simply been married just a short time but changes in your life have meant you’d like to say ‘I do’ once more.
Maybe you got married abroad and want an opportunity for your friends and family back home to participate in your celebrations.
A Vow Renewal could be the perfect occasion for this. A time to reflect, celebrate and look forward to your future together as partners for life or husband and wife.
It’s an opportunity to re-declare your love for one another in front of your family and friends. You might repeat the same vows you originally had in your wedding ceremony or perhaps use totally new words to express your love.
Your ceremony can take place anywhere; your home, a pub, a place that has special significance for you, even the beach! It can be the perfect precursor to a party or other celebration.
I will work with you to ensure your ceremony is tailored to you and reflects your shared history and future together.
Please contact me so I can help you to create the perfect celebration.
Vow Renewal ceremonies are not legally binding. It’s a blessing of the vows you took previously, and a celebration and recognition of the love you have for each other.
Why have a renewal ceremony?
Whatever the window, a vow renewal reaffirms your commitment to one another.
The focus should be on you and your significant other and the promises you’re making to one another now and in the future. You can have an intimate event with family or an elaborate affair with many guests; there aren’t any right or wrong vow renewal ideas. Regardless of what you pick, do what moves your heart and feels right to you.
You will have had time to reflect on what’s kept you together, so there’s substance in a renewal. This should be planned to suit you, particularly if perhaps you had less control over your original wedding ceremony than you might have wanted.
What should I be thinking about?
Part of what makes a vow renewal ceremony so special is your customisation of the proceedings, particularly your vows. Take some time to consider why you’re doing this. Think about all the incredibly amazing memories you and your partner share, and the qualities in your partner that you’ve grown to cherish. There’s no pressure to memorise your vows – there’s nothing wrong with reading from notes. Or I can read them for you repeat. Just make sure to look at your spouse in the eye a few times while you say them. The feelings and connection that comes from eye contact with your life partner is like nothing else in the world. It’s magical!
There’s no need to have a formal bridal party. Of course perhaps you couldn’t have bridesmaids the first time round and have felt a bit deprived all these years! It’s your ceremony, so (almost) anything goes. You can always ask close friends to be on hand to help with new rings if you decide to refresh your wedding jewellery as part of the ceremony.
When planning your vow renewal ceremony, don’t forget to have fun and focus on the love you have for one another. It’s a really powerful thing to say to each other, along with family and friends, “We did it. We’ve made it this far and we know we can make it to the end together. Nothing and no-one can stop us.”
Most of all, take time to create new memories, relive old ones and enjoy your time with family and friends. This is an opportunity to reignite and re-energize your love for one another.
From the Wedding Vow – Sharon Olds
In truth, we had married that first night, in bed,
we had been married by our bodies,
but now we stood in history—
what our bodies had said, mouth to mouth,
we now said publicly, “gathered together, death”.
We stood holding each other by the hand,
yet I also stood as if alone, for a moment,
just before the vow, though taken years before, took.
It was a vow of the present and the future,
and yet I felt it to have some touch on the distant past
or the distant past on it,
I felt the silent, dry, crying ghost of my parents’ marriage there,
Somewhere in the bright space—
perhaps one of the plummeting flies, bouncing slightly
as it hit “forsaking all others”, then was brushed away.
I felt as if I had come to claim a promise—
the sweetness I’d inferred from their sourness;
and at the same time that I had come,
congenitally unworthy, to beg.
And yet, I had been working toward this hour all my life.
And then it was time to speak—
he was offering me, no matter what, his life.
That is all I had to do, that evening,
to accept the gift I had longed for—
to say I had accepted it, as if being asked if I breathe.
Do I take?
I take as he takes—
we have been practicing this.
Do you bear this pleasure?